Is it right or wrong for children not to say hello to strangers? Why are children unwilling to say hello to strangers?

As parents, we all hope that our children can greet others gracefully when they meet others, which will make people feel that their children are polite and well-mannered. However, when children meet strangers, they just don't say a word. Why is this? How can parents guide them?

Is it right or wrong for children not to say hello to strangers?

Sometimes, it is a good thing for a child to retreat, especially when the child enters an unfamiliar environment and needs to observe the new environment first.

When children feel that they don’t like to interact with others, when they are forced to behave according to other people’s standards, parents should allow them to face these situations with caution, and not label them as “timid and shy”. When sensitive children see strangers, on the one hand, they will think: I don’t know him/her, why should I talk to him/her? On the other hand, they will think: It’s nice to look at him/her, why not try to say a few words and see what happens.

Generally speaking, when children are unwilling to say hello to others, parents will generally be very anxious. On the one hand, they think that their children are not well educated and have no manners, and that it is shameful to do so; on the other hand, their authority is openly challenged, and they feel embarrassed because their children are disobedient.

Why are children reluctant to say hello to strangers?

It is easy for parents to think that their children are impolite, uneducated, disrespectful to others, and lack basic social skills when their children do not greet others. They worry about how their children will get along with others in the future. In fact, when the problem is raised to this level, the normal reaction of parents will be anger and anxiety. The more this happens, the more parents need to think calmly. The most important thing to do is to understand why their children are unwilling to greet others.

How can parents guide their children who are unwilling to say hello?

1. Don’t label your children

It is normal for children to be unwilling to say hello or be shy about strangers. It is not impolite as parents say. As parents, do not say in front of your children that they are impolite, disrespectful, or have no rules. The more parents say this, the more the children will think of themselves this way and will go in this direction in the future. In the long run, the children will still not say hello when they meet people, and may even be nervous and anxious when facing strangers.

2. Parents should set a good example

Parents are the first teachers of their children. They must set an example for their children. If the parents are introverted, how can they raise extroverted children? To avoid children being introverted, parents must set a good example. When taking their children shopping or strolling, they should take the initiative to say hello, chat, and talk about family matters when they see people they know. These actions of yours will be seen by your children, and slowly the children will discover through their own observations how to greet others, how to chat and interact with others.

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When children are outside, if they do not say hello to strangers, it is best for parents not to scold them in front of outsiders, saying how impolite they are for not saying hello or even saying hello. In this case, it is best for parents to go home and educate their children slowly.

As parents, we must first understand our children’s behavior and tell them that we were like this when we were young, and didn’t know what to say when we saw strangers. But we must also tell our children the importance of greeting others, which will be of great help in future social interactions. Finally, parents should tell their children what to do next time they encounter a similar situation.