I was very irritable after giving birth.

It is normal to have a bad temper after giving birth. This is mainly because women’s energy will be overdrawn after giving birth, and their emotions will fluctuate greatly, which will cause us to become irritable and depressed. In addition, taking care of children is also a very troublesome task, which requires mothers to spend a lot of energy, so it will cause mothers to have a bad temper. This requires the husband to help relieve the pressure on women.

01Because of the physical fatigue from working day and night.

When a person's energy is overdrawn, his emotions will fluctuate severely, and he may become either depressed or irritable.

As we all know, newborns are very difficult to take care of. The poop and pee alone can keep one busy all day long, not to mention feeding them every two hours at night. I am so tired during the day and I don’t get a good rest at night, so how can I be in a good mood?

Moreover, a large number of newborns have the habit of reversing day and night. They sleep soundly during the day and become more energetic at night, which makes new mothers collapse.

If the child has a headache or fever, or cries for no apparent reason, her arms will be broken from exhaustion, but no matter how hard she tries to comfort the child, it is useless. This often makes a new mother feel like she is living a life worse than death. The child cries, and she cries too, and she has to comfort the child while he cries.

In this situation, how can she be in a good mood?

02 It is difficult to adapt for a while and there is a huge psychological gap.

The pain of pregnancy, the pain of childbirth, and the difficulty of confinement are things a girl could never imagine before marriage. Without personal experience, one cannot understand the difficulties and hardships involved.

Which girl's dream before marriage is not a harmonious and happy marriage? Which woman imagines her children to be adorable and cute?

But the reality is, life after marriage is dull and down-to-earth, and maybe even a mess. Children are a combination of angels and demons. When they are well-behaved, they are angels, but when they make trouble, you will suspect that they are sent by God to punish you. Newborns are demons most of the time, leaving you with no tears to cry.

Everything seems to be different from the marriage you imagined, but things have come to this point and there is nothing you can do to change it.

Therefore, many women cannot accept this huge psychological gap for a while, feel that they have been deceived, are very dissatisfied with the quality of their marriage, and their happiness index drops directly. How can their temper be good?

03 The husband does not share the burden, does not comfort, and is content to be a hands-off boss.

Just like my colleague Xiao Zhang, he knew that his wife had just given birth to a child, but instead of going home early after work to help take care of her, he hid outside to seek some quiet time.

The more he disliked his wife's bad temper and tried to avoid her, the worse she became. This cycle would only frustrate her and make their relationship become the most rigid.

Giving birth to children is something only women can do, but it does not mean that raising the children is also a woman's responsibility. The child is also your child, and you have the responsibility and obligation to take care of the child and take care of the wife who has been through the gates of hell to give birth to your child.

If you take it for granted that your wife should give birth to and raise children, and remain indifferent when you see her busy and helpless, or even feel disgusted when you see her becoming increasingly haggard.

Then, no matter how gentle and generous a woman is, she will be forced into a shrew by you. No matter how good her temper is or how patient she is, there will always be a day when she explodes. The three-foot-thick ice does not form overnight, and people's patience is limited.

If a woman becomes extremely irritable after giving birth, it means she is tired and disappointed. At this time, as a husband, you must not just blame her or evade the question. You should be more understanding, lend a hand, and take on the burden that you should take on.

The road of marriage is not easy to walk. Adults are all carrying heavy burdens forward. Only by sharing the burden and understanding each other can they walk steadily on this road.