Why didn't it hurt or bleed the first time?

Many girls do not feel pain or bleeding when they have sex for the first time, but this does not mean that the woman is not a virgin, because the hymen varies from person to person. For some women with thin hymen, the hymen may rupture during strenuous exercise. It is an unscientific idea to think that if there is no bleeding or pain during sex, the woman is not a virgin.

1. Does bleeding and pain mean that you are a virgin?

The first thing a newly married couple encounters during their first sexual intercourse is the "hymen" issue. The hymen has always played a more important role in social and moral concepts than other sexual organs. This is because its integrity has always been considered a reliable indicator, or even the only indicator, for determining a woman's chastity. In fact, from the perspective of medical practice, it is not scientific to judge whether a woman is a virgin based on whether there is bleeding and pain.

Because not every virgin experiences bleeding or pain during their first sexual intercourse. Moreover, the characteristics of the hymen vary from person to person. It can be thin, thick, loose, tight, large or small, and its shapes are also different. Some rupture due to strenuous exercise, cycling, falls, trauma, menstrual plugs, masturbation, etc.; some have their hymen retracted on their own due to old age; some are not very obvious at birth; some have a very stretchable hymen and remain intact despite multiple sexual intercourse. Therefore, it is obviously extremely unfair to judge a wife's chastity solely based on her hymen.

2. What should I do if my first sexual intercourse fails?

It is also very common to have sexual intercourse failure on the wedding night. According to analysis, the main reasons for failure of first sexual intercourse are: 10% of the time the penis is flaccid before intercourse (caused by excessive tension); 8% of the time ejaculation occurs before intercourse or as soon as it touches the female vagina (caused by excessive excitement and impatience); 35% of the time it is due to pain on the part of the female; 15% of the time the sexual intercourse site is unknown; and 20% of the time it is due to unknown reasons.

On the other hand, the failure of the first sexual intercourse is related to the experience of caressing. 2/3 of the failures are those who have no experience, 1/3 of the failures can understand the reasons after the first sexual intercourse fails, and most of the failures can successfully combine after 2-5 attempts. So even if you fail, there is no need to be impatient or have any concerns. You can try again after a short rest, or wait a day or two until both parties are emotionally stable and the fatigue of the honeymoon is relieved before trying again.

If the man fails, the woman's accusations of being "useless" or "terrible" will often make the man feel deeply ashamed and uneasy, suffer greater psychological setbacks and fall into trouble. At this time, if the woman can be reasonable and say some sweet words as if nothing has happened, giving encouragement and comfort to the man, the man will regain his courage and seek a harmonious and happy sex life.

3. Does the outflow of semen after sexual intercourse affect conception?

It is a common phenomenon that semen leaks out of the vagina after sexual intercourse. In fact, although each ejaculation can discharge about 2-5 ml of semen, which contains hundreds of millions of sperms, only a very small number of sperms can finally pass through the cervix and uterine cavity to reach the fallopian tubes to wait for fertilization, generally only 15-50, and no more than 200.

Among them, only the sperm that arrives first and has good quality will be selected by the egg and combine with it to complete the mission of continuing life. Most of the remaining sperm are rejected from the uterus and discharged from the vagina along with the semen. In order to prevent semen from flowing out and increase the chance of conception, the woman's buttocks can be raised during sexual intercourse, and she should lie on her back for two hours after intercourse to ensure that the semen submerges the cervix and reduces its outflow. As for the excess semen being discharged from the vagina after sexual intercourse, it is a natural phenomenon and generally has no effect on conception.